Most parents struggle with getting enough sleep after having a baby. They try to get the baby to sleep for as long as possible, so that they can sleep too. The goal for many parents is to have the baby sleep for five or more hours at a time during the nighttime. While some babies will sleep through the night at six weeks old, others wake up regularly until they are over a year old. Some babies that once slept well may start waking up again. Each baby is different and sleeping patterns can change over time. Talk to your Public Health Nurse or come to a Parent and Infant Drop-in for more information and support.

• Sleep and your infant
  

Tips to help your baby sleep

• Expose your baby to natural light, noise, and activity during the day. Put them to sleep in a room that is quiet and dark during the night.

• When you're tending to your baby at night, don't play or talk with them; keep the lights low.

• Try white noise during sleep time, like a fan or the sound of ocean waves.

• Don't respond to every sound at night. Babies make noise while they sleep. Wait to see if the baby will settle back down before responding.

• Have a calming bedtime routine that you both enjoy.
  

Create a safe sleeping environment

Learn how to create a safe sleeping environment for your baby. It will help them to sleep better and reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). 

• Safe sleeping - Healthy Families BC

• Sleep related infant death - HealthLink bC

• Safe sleep for your baby - Government of Canada video

• Safe sleep for your baby pamphlet - Government of Canada

Tips to help your baby sleep as safely as possible

• Always place your baby on their back to sleep. If they roll over on their own, that's okay.

• Use an approved crib or bassinet with a firm sleep surface. Don't use any pillows or bumper pads.

• Share a room with the baby, if possible. (But don't share your bed.)

• Never expose your baby to second-hand smoke.

• Breastfeed your baby.

• Keep baby warm, but not hot. A light blanket is usually enough.
  

It's important to start taking care of your baby's dental health before they get teeth. When your baby is a few days old, you can start cleaning their mouth and gums with a damp cloth twice each day. Good habits now will prevent tooth decay later in life. Tooth decay can lead to pain, infection and the need for serious surgery. For concerns about your child's dental health – contact your local public health dental program.

By their first birthday, your child should have already seen a dentist. If cost is something you're concerned about, you may be eligible for basic dental care benefits through the BC Healthy Kids Program.

• Baby teeth are important!
  

• Mouth care for infants and toddlers - Birth to 36 months (English) - Also available in: Chinese, Farsi, Korean, Punjabi, Spanish, Tagalog, Vietnamese

• Dental care for toddlers - Healthy Families BC
  

• Dental care for your infant and toddler - HealthLink BC, also available in: Chinese, Farsi, French, Korean, Punjabi, Spanish, Vietnamese
  

During the first months of your baby's life you will notice how quickly they grow and change. You may wonder if your baby is developing at the same rate as others the same age, or you may have concerns about something you notice.

It is normal to have questions and concerns. The best thing to do is talk to a health care provider or find more resources to help you understand your baby's growth.

Understanding your baby's moods and emotions will help you know how to give them the best care possible.

If you have concerns about your baby's state of mind please look for more information Kelty Mental Health Resource Centre.

Playtime is important for babies to develop and grow. By exploring the world through play, babies learn about the world and gain new skills. You can help with this very important job. If you're not sure how to play with a baby, that's okay! There are many games that you can learn to play together. Remember: Any toy or object that can fit entirely into your baby's mouth is dangerous. Keep all small items far away from your baby's hands.

• Your child and play from birth to 3 years - HealthLink BC
  

• Babies' social and emotional development from 0-6 months - Healthy Families BC
  

• Babies' social and emotional development from 6-9 months - Healthy Families BC
  

• Toddlers' social and emotional development from 12-18 months - Healthy Families BC
  

It can be tempting to use screen time to keep your baby happy. And, while sitting your baby in front of the TV, computer or tablet can keep them occupied and free up time for you, it's not recommended for children under the age of two. Instead, involve your child in what you're doing. If they can sit up, put them into a highchair in the kitchen and have them watch you make dinner instead of watching TV, for example. 

• Screen time for young children

Children learn new skills quickly. That's why it's important to be two steps ahead when thinking about safety. As your child is learning to crawl, you should be preparing your home to be safe for them as though they can already walk.

Get down to your child's level and look for hazards. For example, try pushing against furniture to see if it's stable enough to support your child's weight as they pull themselves up to standing. Some of the most common causes of injury you should look out for are:

• Falls – Example: Is there any furniture that your child could climb on then fall off of?

• Burns/scalds – Example: Is there anything that your child could climb on in the kitchen that would let them reach the stove?

• Poison – Example: Are all household cleaners stored and well out of reach?

If an accident does happen, it's good to be prepared ahead of time. Learn basic first aid for common injuries on the HealthLink BC website.

Infants may not talk, but they are learning language from the time they are born. They listen to you when you talk and try to communicate with you through copying your facial expressions or waving their arms and legs. It's important to talk to your baby as much as possible. In the beginning, just talk or sing to your baby about anything as you do everyday tasks. 

• Talking to your baby is important
  

• Keep your first language (English) - It's good for children to grow up learning more than one language, so if you speak another language, share it with your baby. Also available in: Chinese, Farsi, French, Korean, Punjabi, Spanish, Vietnamese
  

• Baby talk (English) - Understanding your baby's communication. Also available in: Chinese, Punjabi, Spanish 
  

Learning first words

As your baby learns to make sounds of their own and starts to use gestures such as pointing or shaking their head for "no", you can help them learn their first words.

• Use short, simple sentences. For example, "Juice all done"

• Use words that your child can copy. For example, "all done", "more", "no"

• Use simple common action words. For example, "wash", "go", "eat"

• Repeat first words often. For example, "you want milk?" "here's milk", "more milk?"

• Wait for your child to ask for what they want.

• Talk about things that your child shows an interest in.

• Smile and have fun when talking to your child.
  

Vision and language

Healthy vision is an important part of how your baby learns to communicate. If you suspect that there are problems with your baby's eyes, contact your health care provider. Learn more about your baby's vision from birth to 6 months (available in multiple languages).

When to get help

In order to see how your child’s language development compares to his or her peers, you can use thisDevelopmental chart for hearing and speech. However, each child develops at their own pace and has different strengths. It may be perfectly normal for your child to pick up language more slowly. 

In addition to beginning to use language, your child should also be making eye contact, pointing to things that interest them and trying to share activities with you by the time they are 18 months old.

If you have concerns, talk to your health care provider or contact a speech-language pathologist at VCH. If services are needed, it’s important to start them as early as possible.

Your baby likely already had a first hearing test in the hospital. You can keep monitoring your baby's hearing at home. Your baby should be doing at least a few of the following:

• Startle and/or cry at loud sounds

• Smile when there are friendly voices

• Look toward sounds

• Recognize his or her parents' voices

• Notice toys that make sounds

If your baby isn't doing these things, that doesn't necessarily mean that something is wrong, but you should speak to your health care provider about your concerns. If there are problems, it's important that they're caught and treated early.

VCH audiology services offers comprehensive hearing services for children 0-19.

Early hearing program

1 in every 300 babies born in BC has hearing loss. If it's caught early, much can be done and problems with developing language skills can be avoided. That's why the BC Early Hearing Program is working to screen all babies born in BC Hospitals. Most babies in BC have their hearing screened before they go home from the hospital. For babies who were not screened in the hospital, hearing screening is offered at your local audiology (hearing) clinic or community screening clinic.

The test is not painful or uncomfortable for the baby, and you will get results right away. In most babies, it is clear that their hearing is fine and you can get peace of mind. Many babies, however, will need follow-up testing. This does not necessarily mean that there is anything wrong. In most cases it simply means that a clear reading wasn't possible. There may have been too much background noise, for example. However, it's important to go to all of your follow-up appointments so that if there is any hearing loss, your baby can get help right away.

Your baby's eyes are growing like the rest of their body. If you have concerns about your child's vision, you can talk to your health care provider or go to one of VCH's Vision and Hearing Screening centres.

Find more information on your common vision problems and how to understand your child's vision here.

Most children tend to be ready for toilet training (going to the potty) around their second birthday. Some are ready earlier and others later. Your toddler will let you know that they're ready when they do the following things:

• Keep their diaper dry for a few hours at a time.

• Show an interest in the toilet or potty and what it is used for.
  

• Can pull down their pants and sit on a potty by themselves.

• Can let you know through words or actions that they need to use the potty.

As your child learns to use the potty, use these tips and be patient. Every child has accidents and it's normal for them to sometimes make a mess as they're learning. By giving them praise for doing well, instead of punishment for mistakes, you're helping them learn faster.

• Toilet training
  

• Learning to use the toilet - Healthy Families BC

A baby will keep you busy! Babies need to be fed, have diapers changed, and be kept safe and healthy. But the most important thing you will do in the first 18 months is build a healthy relationship with your baby.

There is no such thing as spending too much time with your baby. You won’t spoil them. Never ignore your baby when they are hurt, sick, afraid or lonely. Every minute that they are shown attention and love will only help them thrive. Always use gentle hands and kind voice. Gaining your baby’s trust by being a steady source of comfort is the key to a healthy relationship

Self care while parenting a baby

Forgive yourself and your partner for mistakes – nobody is perfect. Take care of yourself. Parents who are feeling lonely, afraid, sad or worried will find it hard to respond to their baby’s needs.

If you find that you’re struggling with caring for your baby, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent. Sometimes building that relationship just takes time. It may also be a sign that you need more support. Talk to your public health nurse or family doctor.